This morning we had a visit from some good friends who had a baby about 10 minutes after Liam was born. Well, kid #1 and dad were here, to be exact. The rain that we awoke to this morning had stopped, and we took the opportunity of the weather break to head outside and play on Raelin's new playset that I put together this week. It wasn't too long before the telltale breeze of a thunderhead front came blowing through, and a glance to the southeast showed heavy dark gray from horizon to sky. We took a few more minutes then headed inside just as the sky opened up with a torrent. As we sat inside in the dim flat light and the occasional flash of lightning and burst of thunder I thought back a bit on this blissful week we've had and thought "I need to blog this stuff!" So here's some highlights and memories in no particular order.
Sitting on Raelin's bed with her telling her that today was the day her playset would be delivered, and that it would be coming on a *big* truck. She instantly wound up a few notches and every time something big drove by the nearby state highway she would squeal "I hear a big truck!" And then, looking out the window with both hands and her chin on the sill saying "I'm *so* excited that my playset will be here today on a big truck." Not soon after we were playing out on the back deck when we heard a semi coming into the neighborhood. We ran outside in time to see it stop in front of our house and greet the driver who cheerily unloaded 8 boxes of pure kid fun. I went and got my box cutter and Raelin started running around jabbering about which one to open first. After a few hours of drilling, banging, and a trip to Home Depot to pick up a tool I need to return, the main structure and swings were up. The next day I got the rock wall holds and slide up; mission complete. So we now have an awesome wooden playset in the front yard that will hopefully bring many years of fun to Raelin and Liam and their friends. So far so good!
The weather report for the week has been for 10 days of rain, so a few days ago when the sun broke through at 8:30 in the morning I said that it was time to go outside to the park. Kelly decided that she and Liam were up for their first outing, so we packed everything and everyone up and put the infant car seat next to Raelin's toddler seat, and away we went. The morning at the park was fabulous; the first of I'm sure many to come. More fabulous though, is the feeling of completion and peace that I have now that our family is complete. Complete in the way that I've always imagined myself with 2 kids, and that Kelly and I have always talked about having 2 kids, and that as Raelin's grown we've frequently commented about when the second one should come along. It's not a sense of completion like I get when I build something or write a nice app. It's so much more than that, like I've fulfilled a big part of my life's purpose, that this family, in this place and time, is why I'm here, and each little perfect moment is just icing on that experience.
A couple days ago I decided that it was time to put up our hummingbird feeders. I roped Raelin into helping make the suger water, which is a perfect and simple recipe to have her help with. So we dusted off and cleaned out the 2 feeders and got them filled. The next day I took a few minutes and built a couple of wooden hangers to screw onto the deck. R then helped me a little bit to put them together and then I mounted them and hung the feeders. Voila, within 5 minutes we had our first hummingbird and since then have many more. Add to this the massive amount of finches we have at our feeders and the other birds now filling the woods and willow thickets, and their various songs filling the air, and you've got the soundtrack for spring.
Leaves. Leaves are back and getting more every day. And not just leaves, but bursting, vibrant bright green fresh young new leaves after many months of bare branches. Leaves that rustle faintly in gentle spring breezes, breezes that are heavy with the scents of blooming flowers, wet earth, and new growth. Leaves that are perfect before bugs, disease, or age have weathered them. In essence, leaves that grab your attention and hold it with their message; spring is here.
And of course, Liam. Watching him change so fast from a newborn bary squinting his deep gray eyes open to an infant who watches everything; eyes deepening to blue. I remember how hard this seemed with Raelin, having a baby. This time it's just total gravy. He stays where I put him, there's no negotiation about the minutae of the day, pretty much just hold him, give him a finger to suck on, or a breast if he's hungry, change him and keep him warm. Total baby bliss.
Watching Raelin be so concerned with her new brother. He can hardly make a peep without her worridly asking "why's he crying, what's wrong with Liam?" She loves holding him in her lap and reading him books; her current favorite is
Busy Doggies, which is a photo collection of dogs doing all the things dogs do with cute titles like "Doggies staring, doggies sharing" and "Doggies pawing, doggy gnawing." Since we're all a little bit dog here in this family, it's a favorite all around =) And one of my favorite things, when Liam's on the changing table and not liking being there and hence crying, Raelin stands up on the couch so she's over his head and gently strokes his hair cooing "I know, I know, I know" in a lilting soft tone that starts low and arcs up over "know" to come back down at the end of the word. She's been so fantastic with the transition from single child to sister; certainly very hard for her at times but she takes it all in stride and we encourage her to express the hard and painful parts, too.
And finally, watching Kelly take motherhood to a whole new level each moment. She's just fantabulous; the best I've ever seen. It's such a joy to raise kids and parent with a soul mate that's so damn good at it. She constantly inspires me to be a better papa, to show up in ways that challenge me. And if there's one truth about parenting, it's there will *always* be places where it's challenging. Always =)